This weekend we celebrate that special lady in our lives, our Mums. You may have read from a previous blog that my Mum is no longer with me, but just because she isn’t here it doesn’t stop me wanting to celebrate her and remember her.
So this year to remember her, I wanted to share with you some of the things I have learnt from her.
Like it or not, most mums always know the right things to say in any situation.
“Don’t worry about what everyone else is doing just worry about yourself.”
She gave me this piece of advice when I was in year 10 and I was worrying about mock GCSE results (worrying that they weren’t good enough), comparing myself to others around me, and my mum said: “don’t worry about what everyone else is doing, just worry about yourself”.
As a 15 year old at the time, it really helped me put things into perspective, why was I so wrapped up in what others around me were doing? Their results aren’t going to help me. This advice helped me shift my focus to me, and I really knuckled down and worked hard and ignored what grades my friends were getting.
Even now I still remember this advice as it’s just as helpful now as it was then. I’m at that age where a lot of my friends are engaged, married or having kids, and I’m just not there yet. I sometimes compare myself to them and come up short. Which can make you feel a little bit shit! If I catch myself doing this I instantly remember my mum’s advice and shift my focus to what I’m doing and if I’m happy with the situation.
If in doubt go without
When I was about 17, most Saturday’s my mum would meet me after work and we would get on the number two bus and head into town to go shopping. She was the best shopping buddy. She would twist my arm into buying those expensive boots that I had my eye on for ages.
She was very honest if clothes didn’t suit me, she could always tell if I wasn’t 100% sold on something, and would always say “if in doubt go without” I would then think about it and then not buy it. (It also made me think about all my purchases, I’m not much of an impulse buyer!)
I still remember that helpful saying and I think it can be applied to other areas of life as well, if you’re unsure about a guy you have liked for ages but for some reason you aren’t 100% certain on him, or a job offer you’re not too sure about then I just remember…if in doubt then go without…
Don’t take yourself too seriously
My mum and I were partners in crime, where there was one the other one wasn’t far behind, we brought out the silly and mischievous side out in one another which caused lots of schoolgirl giggles. One of my childhood friends and had seen my mum like her own said to me “your mum was so fun, she who would skip down the road with you or do or say something funny just to make you laugh”
She didn’t care who saw her, or what they thought, she never took herself too seriously, and that is one thing I have definitely inherited from her, I like to think I have her care free nature and her sense for fun.
I think that is one of the best things I’ve learnt from her. The attitude she had and her outlook on life. She always saw the good in people and didn’t judge people. But she also let people know if they overstepped the mark, (that’s the part that I find quite hard, but I’m slowly getting better at it)
And a great beauty tip she shared with me
My mum was very strict with her skincare regime. She would always moisturise every morning and every night without fail! I remember her telling me to use a moisturiser that had SPF in it, and to apply it every morning, even in winter, as your skin can get sun damage in the winter! She would swear by Nivea as her night cream, and it must have worked because she looked very young for her age.
Because of this advice, I started using moisturiser with SPF in since I was about 19 and I’m currently using Simple Age Regeneration Cream with SPF 15. For night cream I haven’t been as strict, I’m really bad at falling asleep before I put any on! (a habit I’m trying to break) but am currently using (when I remember) Olay Night Cream. Which is really light and makes my skin feel really soft.
So that is some of the advice and life lessons I learnt from my Mum, and as this post is about reminiscing, I thought I’d share some old photo of me as a child.
I hope you enjoyed reading my post about what I have learnt from my mum. I would love you guys to share some of the advice your mum gave you, in the comment box below. See you on the next one xx